Patricia Cleghorn is Principal of Orchid, an author and speaker. She has an exceptionally wide range of experience in helping people to flourish.

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The right job for you

While in your current job, have as a personal project the aim of finding work you enjoy. You may know what you want. If not, by all means take psychometric tests, careers counselling, read books on different types of work and visit different organizations you feel would be appropriate. Yet, be aware that the main indicator is a self-esteem one, that is, when you do or even imagine yourself doing this activity, this type of work, do you feel better about yourself, do you feel a sense of energy, purpose, a sense of joy?

Start from what you enjoy. You can tell when you feel more enthusiastic, lighter, more joyful, that you are moving in the right direction.

Sometimes an activity you regard as a hobby will take an important place in your life. You will realize that you want to spend more and more time on it. Perhaps it’s something you make or a service you could receive payment for. As you boost your self-esteem, you will realize that in due course you will be set to make money from doing work you enjoy.

Self-esteem booster
Support your success by keeping self-esteem thoughts to the forefront of your mind like ‘I can do this’, ‘I’m building on the success I already have’, ‘I now deserve to have work I love’.

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Self-esteem thoughts for results

People at work frequently set goals and project targets. While they may deal with any logistical and strategic objections, the thoughts of those on their team are rarely taken into consideration. It is highly practical for everyone in a team to be aware of the power of their thoughts. With regard to your individual contribution, while taking all the practical steps you need, notice if you are telling yourself low self-esteem thoughts like ‘I’m not good enough’, ‘I can’t do this well’, ‘other people are doing better’. You’ll slow yourself down and make the process more difficult and less enjoyable. Change these thoughts so that you remind yourself that you are good enough, you are doing well enough, also that your contribution is of value, regardless of whether this is fully appreciated.

We’ve seen that the most common ‘downers’ to your self-esteem are indulging in a self-critical ‘binge’, letting unhelpful thoughts go unchecked so you end up constricting your vision of yourself and the world. You remedy this by each time these ‘downers’ pervade your mind, you say ‘stop’ and make a concerted effort to choose thoughts that are helpful – ‘I am good enough’, ‘I can handle this’, ‘I deserve to have this work out’.

Take a minute … several times today to use the thought ‘I’m good enough to…’, completing it in different ways.

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Value Yourself!

From The Secrets of Self-Esteem - Read more

Whatever the situation or circumstances you as an individual find yourself in right now, start with self-value. It may be that you need to value yourself more to progress with the work you want to do. It may be that a relationship you had thought was a lasting one has changed, or a job you felt was secure has gone. This does not mean to say that you are not still of great value: you are. It is easy to feel hopeless and discouraged in such circumstances, yet that does not help. To move beyond this, you need to feel a sense of self-value that is there unconditionally. This self-value can only be added by you. No other person can do this for you.

Deliberately valuing yourself in this way is appropriate, especially where you feel a lack of self-value is holding you back or that greater self-value would assist you in moving forward. This may be in doing more of what is really appropriate for you or in asking for the additional money you know you deserve for the work you do. Realize how worthwhile and valuable you are. You have many unique qualities, many good aspects and abilities. You will have developed helpful characteristics and learned much. It is important to remember and hold on to the fact that all of these aspects which constitute your self-value are always there. In fact, they may even have been added to by adversity. Challenging circumstances make you more, not less.

I value myself at all times.

 

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